Where’s My Backbone? OR I Matter Too!



Today’s blog post comes from the Daily Prompt from February 20th, 2016  titled Shape Up or Ship Out

Write a letter to the personality trait you like least, convincing it to shape up or ship out. Be as threatening, theatrical, or thoroughly charming as is necessary to get the job done.

Thanks for the great idea, Iam Who Iam.

OK…here goes.

Dear Pacifist Spirit,

This letter has been a long time coming and I should have written it long ago. I am talking about years and years ago before we got into this mess, that is when I should have said something to you. I just hope it is not too late to change your annoying habit of giving in. I have a bone or two to pick with you (pardon the pun) about how you go about life always conceding your will to just about, no strike that, anybody else’s will. You give up far too much and don’t consider MY feelings at all. Frankly, I am getting sick and tired of it! The pressure has been building for quite some time now and I just can’t be silent about it anymore. This has to be said and damn it you are going to listen. It is time for you to shape up or ship out. I mean it.

If someone wants the last cookie you are all too willing to just hand it over even though they have eaten the majority of the bag and I have had maybe two cookies. They were great cookies…I really liked those ones. When it comes to money matters you always stay quiet when someone asks if you want or need something. I know people don’t often ask us because they just assume we will meekly sit by while they take and take and take…but that’s not the point. You got us into this mess by consistently proving we won’t say anything. So they feel free to keep taking without considering us. But, we do want and we do need but will you say it? Nope. The opportunity passes by and you just let it. Then you bug me by whispering in my ear that nobody cares what we want or need. Well, you should have said something when asked shouldn’t you? It is too late now to moan and groan about how life is unfair if you aren’t willing to reach out for what you want.

It has always been like this with us hasn’t it? When did this all really start anyway? Oh I know, way back when we were children. You learned very well not to be seen or heard and now when we can be vocal, be noticed, be counted you stay silent. Why? Gawd you make me so angry and frustrated. It is a long ingrained habit I hear you say and one that is just not that easy to break. Are we doomed to be like this until we are dead then? Is that what you are telling me? I refuse to believe that. I refuse to go to my grave never being seen or heard, cared about or considered. I matter too DAMN IT!

Look, here’s the bottom line. If you don’t shape up and start speaking up for yourself (and me) life is going to continue to pass us by. There is never going to be a time when someone looks at us and says to themselves, “what does she want and what can I do to make her happy?” I am not happy, not with the way things are and certainly not with how you are behaving. So cut it out and I mean right now! From this point on, either you shape up or ship out because you are of no use to me at all being like you are. It is time to change for the better. This is your first and your last warning. I will not stand for this any longer. Do you hear me?