Stubborn People Frustrate Me!

Frustration with stubborn people

Today’s post is inspired by the one word Daily Prompt

Stubborn

I don’t know about you but stubborn people frustrate the heck out of me. I try not to be stubborn myself although I mostly likely am stubborn from others’ viewpoints at times. I guess that really is a subjective measurement. What classifies as stubborn to one may not to another. This blog is about things from my perspective, however, so please proceed with that in mind.

The other day I had a little mishap with my ceramic top stove. A pot of mushroom soup boiled over and left a huge mess on the hot cooktop. Now I am the one who usually cooks in this house and as such am the one with the most knowledge and experience with this stove.

I have wanted a ceramic top stove ever since they came out but finances dictated that we buy used coil burner stoves for the longest time. Ugh, those stupid pots under the burners that catch things like boil overs. They are notoriously hard to clean even if you use one of those foil inserts to help protect them. Then there is the matter of the coil burners that sometimes shift and do not hold your pot level. Talk about frustrating!

I can deal with that frustration though since it is an inanimate object and there is no will behind the things messing up on the stove. It is simply a stove messing up due to lousy design. Finally, though,  we were able to afford not only a ceramic top stove but a brand new one. So I hope you can understand my protectiveness over it.

People, on the other hand, are another matter entirely. Their stubbornness tells me that they are so sure they are right that they will continue doing whatever they want regardless of what I have to say. It is as if I don’t matter like I know nothing and couldn’t possibly be right about what I am saying.

Okay, back to the mushroom soup boil over on my ceramic top stove…someone happened to be in the kitchen with me at the time and leaped into action. I already had my hand on the pot handle and was moving it off the active burner. They grabbed a washcloth ran it under the cold water and proceeded to try to wipe up the mess on and around the burner!

Now, I do understand they were trying to help me and their intentions were good in that sense. But, that is the fastest way to crack the cooktop and I rapidly told them this. The owners manual advises to let the mess be until the stove has cooled completely at which time you use the special cleaner for the stove and the non-scratching pad for this purpose to apply the cleaner. Then you take a microfiber cloth and wipe it clean and buff to a shine.

Since I had wanted a stove like this for years and I was the one who had the most experience with it and had studied the care, cleaning and use of it I was offended when they didn’t immediately stop when I told them they could crack it.

They did stop, eventually…but oh, the stress and frustration I was dealing with by then. Now, I do feel horrible telling you all this about someone who was only trying to help when it happened but it is the most direct example of frustrating people I can think of at the moment. It illustrates my point precisely.

I guess what I am trying to say by saying all of that is that sometimes, just sometimes, I need people to listen to me.

What I know and what I say has value. I just want to be heard.

I will admit that this has been an ongoing issue, a sore spot, for me from years and years ago when I was growing up. I need to figure out how to heal that old wound so it doesn’t aggravate my life now, but how?

That is the question, isn’t it?

I would be interested to know how you deal with stubborn people. If there are any helpful techniques I could practice I would sure appreciate hearing about them.

Thanks for stopping by and reading another rant post from me. I just had to get that off my chest and make others aware of the dangers of hot versus cold when it comes to ceramic tops.

Have a wonderful day/night (whatever it is when you are reading this) my friends.  =)

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Dr.Seuss was a genius!

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The theme for today’s post comes from the daily prompt from January 27th which was Quote Me . It asks us to consider the following and then write a post about it.  Do you have a favorite quote that you return to again and again? What is it, and why does it move you? 

The quote, above, is my favorite and I think that is because not only are those wise words but also because it resonates with me on a deep level. This wise man speaks the truth, or at least it should be considered as such in my opinion. 

Okay, let’s break it down into smaller bits and really try to understand the deeper meaning. 

Be who you are and say what you feel – can you imagine how freeing that is? This is how I envision living my life one day. Let’s face it, we are all a work in progress and none of us has this all figured out. I try to live up to that standard but sometimes doubt creeps in, will people really accept who I am? I feel the pressure to conform to what people expect me to be, how they expect me to act. If I were true to myself, I would not care how people felt. I would simply be who I am. Full stop. 

because those who matter don’t mind, – think about that a minute. The people who matter are those close to us, that care about us and how we feel. They accept us faults and all, they accept us for who we are and it is up to us to simply BE who we are. 

and those that mind, don’t matter. – do we really need to twist ourselves in all kinds of knots to change for those people? Don’t we have a right to live our lives exactly how we want? I mean, as long as we are not hurting anyone? We have as much right as those people, who criticize us for being who we are, to live our lives as we choose just like they do.  

For a long while, I actually had that blazing across my desktop screen to remind me each morning when I turned my computer on. Now my desktop screen displays an ocean and beach view because that is what I am focussing on currently. In Northern Ontario right now the weather goes from sunny and warm to overcast and cloudy. I choose to start my day looking at the beach scene and feeling the warmth and hearing the waves even if it is only in my mind. LOL 

Thank you for dropping by to read my thoughts once again, my friends. I do appreciate it. If you liked this post please consider hitting that like button down there. If you are new to my blog and like what you see please consider following my blog so that you can be notified when I publish another post. I am curious, too, what is your favorite quote? Why does it move you? I would really love to hear what you have to say. =)

 

Inspired by Daily Prompt : Susan The Mighty Mediator

A Bird, a Plane, You!
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You get to choose one superpower. Pick one of these, and explain your choice:

  • the ability to speak and understand any language
  • the ability to travel through time
  • the ability to make any two people agree with each other

This post is in response and inspired by the Daily Prompt – today’s prompt is shown above.

Okay, so my superpower would be the last one. First, I want to explain why I did not choose either of the first two. The first one, the ability to speak and understand any language, would be great but since my world is pretty limited in scope I don’t think I would get to use my superpower very much. What fun would that be? I mean, if you had a superpower you would want to exercise that bad boy all the time…am I right? I do have this blog and a YouTube channel along with a lot of other social media accounts but even with all that I do not interact with enough people in different languages to make this one work for me. Feel free to choose it for yourself, though – it is a mighty fine superpower and I don’t know anyone who has got it yet so you would stand out every time you used it. Okay on to the second choice, the ability to travel through time, now this one almost got my vote. It would be so interesting to travel through time. I am assuming that means forward or backward in time since you would need to be able to do that to get to another point in the timeline. I would not want this superpower though because any shift in the timeline by changing the smallest thing could send ripples of change all down the line to the present day and I would not want to mess things up on that level. I would be too scared to use this superpower for fear of doing major damage to world events and personal lives.

My choice of a superpower is the ability to make any two people agree with each other. This would be so useful even in my little corner of the world. Think about it, it would be handy personally when it comes to family members that are currently estranged due to differing opinions and grudges held from long ago. Apply my superpower and Bazinga (to borrow Sheldon’s phrase from The Big Bang Theory) hurt feelings and grudges would disappear like magic. Spreading a little further out I could use it when it comes to shopping where disagreements over parking spots, sale prices and bumping into people with shopping carts can spark untold amounts of anger from some people. I could even try to use it online…start a counseling business that includes mediation with social media access. I would start another channel on YouTube just for this though to make it easier to get to instead of having to search through all my other videos up there in cyberspace. There is so much anger and stress in the world these days it is hard to think of a place I couldn’t use this power. The world would be a better place. I could get world leaders to agree with each other and possibly stop wars that are in the process of developing or even stop wars that are currently going on if I could get the two opposing sides together in one room. Yes, I like this superpower – it would come in handy indeed.

Please let me know in the comments which one you would choose and why. I would be really interested in your take on this idea. Thanks for visiting by my blog. I appreciate it so much – it is so nice when friends stop by. =)